The 4Gateways Coaching Model

The 4 Gateways can be seen as providing an operating system upgrade that allows you to become more creative and adaptable no matter who you are, or what issues you are working with. The 4 Gateways operating system provides a variety of tools to assist you in addressing an enormous variety of issues, within yourself, at home with family and friends and at work.

How it works:

A gateway is an entry or portal from one place to another.

The 4 Gateways OS uses four basic modes of accessing the wisdom of the human soul, at their simplest level they are:

  • Thinking

  • Feeling

  • Doing

  • Being

Using this model you can access all your innate wisdom and bring that to bear on any issue or change you want to make in life. When you honor all four gateways to wisdom, you get a much more complete and clear picture of yourselve and others. The more we know, the better decisions we make.

4Gateways Coaching

Coaching is very much a part of our everyday lives. Every day we coach ourselves and others. Other people coach us. Even though sports coaching, business coaching, and life coaching are recognized as specialized career fields, what coaches do, is done universally by all of us.

Some of us have had the good fortune to receive great coaching from family members and friends, athletic coaches, or business coaches and have internalized healthy coaching models, and sometimes not. In either case we all need periodic operating system upgrades just as our phones and computers do.

4Gateways Training

This four-quadrant model creates new possibilities in the moment and provides opportunities to try them out. In the end, you determine how to bring new possibilities into your relationships, your career, and the world.

Our coaches have found this process easy to access and incredibly valuable in working with individual clients and with groups. We use it to co-coach one another and also find it very powerful when used solo as a personal meditation.

The 4 Architypes we use

By Archetype, we mean a fundamental identity that exists in the collective human psyche and that is accessible to everyone. Archetypes are incredible storehouses of knowledge that help us access wisdom.

The 4 Gateways Coaching model uses four archetypes that embody the four wisdoms listed above. They are:

  • Magician – thinking & reflecting

  • Lover – feeling & connecting

  • Warrior – doing & protecting

  • Sovereign – being & blessing

Attributes of the 4Gateways

While there is no universal agreement about the precise qualities embodied in these four archetypes, here are some of the qualities that we can attribute to each.

Thinking Wisdom – Magician – The Advisor

  • Getting perspective, generating options

  • Thinking critically, using analysis, logic, and intuition

  • Judging and making assumptions

  • Getting and organizing information

  • Creativity and imagination

Doing Wisdom – Warrior – The Protector

  • Taking action

  • Serving and protecting, setting boundaries

  • Using power, working with conflict

  • Street smarts

  • Team work

Feeling Wisdom – Lover – The Connector

  • Feeling and connecting

  • Empathizing and loving

  • Accessing bodily awareness and emotional intelligence

  • Playing and being spontaneous

  • Making music, dancing, making art

Being Wisdom – Sovereign – The Director

  • Setting direction and motivating

  • Making choices from deep knowing

  • Giving support and blessing

  • Defining purpose and meaning

  • Seeing the whole, knowing rank and order

4Gateways Coaching:

4 Gateways Coaching is a dynamic, easy-to-learn method to work with everyday problems at home or at work, as well as to grapple with life’s deepest soul questions.

4 Gateways Coaching taps into the four fundamental ways we all have of processing experience - thinking, feeling, being, and acting. 

These are our natural hard-wired gateways to wisdom. When we open all four of these gateways and engage their inherent transformational capacities, our opportunities for making real positive change are increased exponentially.

Being coached by a certified 4 Gateways Coach you will….

Evoke your unique genius through:

  • Exceptional Thinking

  • Enhanced Emotional Intelligence

  • Inner Support and Motivation

  • Right Use of Power

Access support for any aspect of your personal and business life for:

  • Optimal Health

  • Business Success

  • Fulfilling Relationships

  • Navigating Transitions & conflicts

  • Spiritual Growth

Contact one of our certified coaches for an introductory session

(Get info from Jude, Chloe, Jake, Teddy, Carol, Trish, Brian, Keith, John, John, Brad, Don, Tiffany, Andrew, Simon, Ian, Dan)

Using the 4 Gateways Coaching process you will:

  • Tap all dimensions of your inner wisdom

  • Learn from any situation

  • Find meaning and purpose in any issue

  • Discover and release unconscious patterns that inhibit growth

  • Strengthen emotional intelligence

  • Access love and compassion for yourself and others

  • Clarify and heal family entanglements

  • Increase your happiness and joy

  • Generate the motivation to shift old patterns

  • Skillfully turn conflicts into assets

  • Speak hard truths without negative consequences

  • Set appropriate boundaries

  • Accurately assess risks and formulate sucessful action steps

4 Gateways Training

4 Gateways Coaches provide their clients with a powerful and dynamic process for addressing an enormous variety of issues, dilemmas, and problems in their client’s lives.


Introductory Training

  • Part 1: Foundational Skills

    (for both individuals desiring tools for their own personal development and professionals wanting tools for their practice.)

Coaching Certification

  • Part 2: Anchoring the 4 Gateways

  • Part 3: Integration & Applications

“The 4 Gateways is stunning in its ability to create real change at the deepest levels with a huge variety of issues. Every time I use this process my clients are awakened to a new way of accessing their inner wisdom.”

- Rhonda Hess, Business Coach, Prosperous Coach, Inc.

Specialty Trainings

  • For Health & Wellness Professionals

  • For Leaders, Directors, Managers, and Mediators

  • For Mental Health Professionals (Therapists, Social Workers, Counselors)

  • For Clergy, Spiritual Directors, & Educators of all kinds.

“The 4 Gateways model provides me with a map I can use for any issue and any client. The model offers access to powerful unconscious blocks that drive thinking and behavior. It’s essential to my practice.”

- Brian Gast, Executive Coach, Quadrant International

Benefits for you as a coach:

  • Your clients find their own uniquely satisfying solutions.

  • The process is easy to learn.

  • You bring out the best in your clients.

  • Deepens as your client evolves.

  • Integrates well with other healing modalities.


The 4Gateways Coaching process teaches your client to:

  1. Define an issue and potential outcome

  2. Invite new perspectives

  3. Assess the risks to change

  4. Honor feelings and deep connections

  5. Find meaning and purpose

  6. Create satisfying resolutions and realistic action steps

Your clients will determine how to bring new possibilities into the inner world, into relationships, and into the world.

    • Get the support you need at any level

    • Successfully navigate transitions

    • Relieve stress

    • Be more creative

    • Unravel chronic patterns

    • Attract abundance in your life

    • Face and resolve fears

    • Embrace and leverage your strengths

    • Cultivate your unique genius

    • Build authentic relationships

    • Skillfully work with conflict at home and at work (and within!)

    • Set appropriate boundaries

    • Relationship and parenting issues

    • Access compassion for yourself and others

    • Become a more powerful leader (as a manager, director, teacher, mediator, and parent)

    • Build powerful teams

    • Clarify your spiritual direction

    • Find meaning and purpose in any issue

    • Developing emotional intelligence

    • Be more present

    • Increase your happiness and joy

    • Create meaningful and doable goals and programs

    • Align body, head, heart, spirit

4 Gateways: Foundational Skills Training

Step One of the 4 Gateways Training Program

Are you an individual looking for tools to support your personal growth?

Are you a professional looking to enhance your ability to support others?

Then this Training is for you —

  • Activate your Mind for – Clearest Thinking & Creative Perspectives

  • Fire up your Doer for – Courage & Right Action

  • Access your Feelings for – Engaged Compassion & Deep Connections

  • Evoke your Deep Knowing for – Alignment with Purpose & Generative Leadership

  • A 6-part live experiential online course to address any personal issue in your own life and develop clarity and action in moving towards resolution.  4 Gateways is an innovative, holistic model that encompasses multiple modalities and techniques for looking at your life from a variety of viewpoints. The 4 Gateways is a powerful, experiential process to address an enormous variety of issues in anyone’s life. The model views both inner and outer life as a source of learning and discovery.

    The 4 Gateways process creates new possibilities in the moment and provides opportunities to try them out. In the end, you guide yourself and others to bring new awareness into their inner life, their relationships, their careers, and their world.

  • Any time when two or more people sign up for the course

  • Online

  • This course is for anyone (all genders welcome) who wants to learn powerful and effective tools that will impact your life, your approach to current life challenges, and your relationships with others. This course will be taught by certified 4 Gateways coaches and trainers.

  • By joining this course and learning the Basic 4 Gateways Process, you will learn how to actively transform old patterns by tapping into inner wisdom at the levels of thinking (magician), feeling (lover), doing (warrior), and being (sovereign), You will also:

    • Refine your listening skills.

    • Understand the beliefs and assumptions underlying the process.

    • Co-coach with fellow participants with supervised feedback.

    • Guide others to access the creative opportunities in any issue.

    • Quickly and skillfully work with resistance and conflict.

    • Access joy and compassion by working deeply within yourself and with others.

    • Create effective self-care and support systems for yourself and anyone you work with.

  • Course Fee: $895

    Includes a free copy of The 4 Gateways: Foundational Skills Training Handbook, by Tom Daly, PhD, and a free 30-minute individual coaching session, with a certified 4 Gateways coach.

Training Curriculum: 6 Classes

This course will feature 6 x 2-hour online classes.

  • The classes will happen live so that you can interact and engage with course instructors and other men.

  • All classes will be recorded and available to watch on replay for 1 year.

  • The 4 Gateways: Foundational Skill Training Handbook, included with tuition, will be utilized between classes to enhance your learning,

  • Paired practice coaching sessions between sessions will also offer hands on peer learning between each class (5 total practice sessions)

  • The course begins with an introduction to the 4 Gateways Process and its foundational beliefs and how it can be applied in your everyday life. You will share about your call to being here; speak about who you are, your strengths and what gifts you bring; and name your desired outcomes for this course.

    During this class we will discuss the overview of the course which will include:

    • Benefits of coaching using this model for yourself & your classmates.

    • Learning the fundamental beliefs and assumptions underlying the process.

    • Becoming familiar with the 4 wisdom perspectives.

    • Learning the basic 4 Gateways model to use with yourself & other coaches.

    • Applying the model in practice for issues of personal self-care.

    • Establishing personal goals for the course and making best use of our time.

    The 4 Gateways process creates new possibilities in the moment and provides opportunities to try them out. In the end, you guide yourself and others to bring new awareness into their inner life, their relationships, their careers, and their world.

  • We will begin this class by discussing the 4 Gateways model in more depth, its history and development as a coaching tool, and its foundational beliefs and assumptions. Understanding the philosophy of this coaching model will help you understand more fully how to coach yourself and others moving forward. The foundational beliefs and assumptions will inform all areas of this course and its coaching methods.

    During this class you will experience the 4 Gateways process modeled in its entirety and discussed at length in order to understand how it works and how to use it effectively.  

    Together we will answer how the 4 Gateways utilizes effective coaching through:

    • How to prepare yourself as a coach and prepare the client for coaching?

    • What is needed to help a client clarify an issue and an outcome to be addressed?

    • How to address the issue from the 4 Gateways and listen to a client intently?

    • What integration and closing is necessary for clients to leave the session empowered?

  • Once you have understood the foundational beliefs and assumptions and experienced the process in its entirety, we will then address how to create a safe container for coaching to occur successfully. We will discuss how effective coaching integrates trust and safety between the coach and the client as well as respect for the process and the work to take place. You will experience a coaching session with a demonstration client model for teaching and then work in pairs to integrate the learning at this stage of the process.

    During this class, we will focus on:

    • Opening and closing coaching sessions.

    • Preparing ourselves to coach and be coached.

    • The importance of confidentiality and safety in coaching.

    • Clarifying an issue and outcome.

    • Addressing the issue from the 4 Gateways.

    • Integrating the learning from the process.

  • During this class you will review the coaching foundations and continue to deepen into the model as coaches and clients. There will be a discussion of the important things to remember when working with clients, how to track the issue and the outcome throughout a session, and how to guide effectively as a coach. This class will include more of the demonstration of the method and more time to discuss challenges experienced integrating this new model.

    • You will have the opportunity with your classmates to:

    • Experience the model in more depth.

    • Ask questions to clarify how to address challenges.

    • Work with each other to coach and be coached on issues of self-care.

    • Discuss any issues as they arise in the coaching relationship.

  • This class will focus on self-care and our personal relationships with how we meet our own needs and ask for support. There will be a demonstration of a full coaching process using the 4 Gateways method with more depth and clarity around how to integrate and close a session with a client. Integration of this tool and how it can be applied is the main objective of this model. Giving ourselves and our clients the opportunity to integrate their awarenesses into their lives is the most powerful part of this tool.

    Together we will further experience and discuss:

    • How does self-care and coaching support effective change?

    • What underlying beliefs are most resonant with you during the process?

    • When does integration occur for you and your client effectively and powerfully?

    • How often does self-care and self-relationship come up in coaching sessions?

  • In this final class you will have the opportunity to review all the coaching basics of the model, ask any remaining questions about how to work the process for yourself and other coaches, and share the insights and takeaways from the course with the cohort. We will then discuss the next steps of how to integrate this coaching tool into your everyday life.

    Together we will explore questions such as:

    • How do I incorporate this coaching model into issues in my life moving forward?

    • What do want to address in my life using this powerful tool for transformation?

    • How can I continue to address challenges in my life through the 4 Gateways?

    • What steps can I take to continue this path of deep listening and coaching in my life?

    • How do I continue my own learning and development utilizing this model?